Moving Past Love as a Feeling – It’s a Way of Being
God is love… this is stated in 1 John 4:8.
I’m curious what do you know of God? How have you experienced Him?
If it’s been any other way than love, it wasn’t Him. It may have been a religious view of Him, or a person’s thoughts or interpretation of who they think He is… but anything other than love isn’t God.
If we rely on the dictionary definition of love, which is an intense or deep feeling of affection. We won’t have a view of what “love” is. That might define love as a feeling… but love is more than a feeling. It’s a way of being, that exhibits actions from that being.
In a society that is focused on magnifying anything but love… it’s important to know who God is. From this place you can quickly see love, experience love, and know love in a way you’re not likely to find any other way in this world.
The question arises what is love?
1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 the famous “Love is…” Bible verse. I read and utilize the Amplified version of the Bible. The Bible Gateway app or website is a free simple way to look up and read any verse I share or reference.
Love endures with patience and serenity
Love is kind and thoughtful, and is not jealous or envious
Love does not brag and is not proud or arrogant
It is not rude; it is not self-seeking
It is not provoked nor overly sensitive and easily angered
It does not take into account wrong endured
It does not rejoice at injustice, but rejoices with the truth, when right and truth prevail
Loves bears all things… regardless of what comes
Believes all things… looking for the best in each one
Hopes all things remaining steadfast during difficult times
Endures all things without weakening
Love never fails… it never fades nor ends
If I believe that God is love as the Bible states or even if I choose to believe that my horses are a reflection of His love… what do I do when that’s not what I’m experiencing in the moment.
I look to myself.
If God feels distant, cold, or condemning to me, I must take notice that isn’t His character or who He is.
These feelings are therefore not truth and are a warning signal that I need to search through my thoughts and knowledge of who God is and who I am in relation to God.
With our horses if we look at this verse and feel that our sessions, time, and our relationship don’t reflect what’s described here. We don’t need a bigger bit, more time with the trainer, and we most certainly don’t need to beat ourselves up… (that’s something I have to remind myself of often).
It simply means we must take a deeper look into ourselves and ask where are we not walking in love?
Where are we not being patient, kind, remaining steadfast, not weakening, looking for the best…
That’s what our horses are here to help us do. Walk in love. Have a pure heart, and be authentically who we are.
As a child, this came much easier for me… when I was with horses, I knew who I was.
I felt so at peace, in the moment, and grounded. What I’ve come to realize is that the years of studying and learning how to be with horses, becoming what I thought was a better trainer and horsewoman… has actually put me further from them and a fog has settled around who I am when I’m with my horses.
I find myself, second guessing… questioning if I’m doing things right? Is there something else I should be doing? Instead of just allowing myself to be present, in connection, and flow with them.
I see this happen to many who study and learn religion as well. The closer they think they are to God, often the further they get and the more rigid, judgmental, and critical they become. Losing sight of “God is love” and never solidifying who they are in relation to God.
Not all people who are Christians or people who claim to be believers in God… have a personal relationship with God or are learning to walk in love.
Not all who are good with horses do it from a place of connection, bond, and love.
What amazes me about horses is they show up “to teach” only as a person is open to receiving and learning…
God is the same with us, waiting for us to be ready.
Returning us again to the verse in the Bible of what love is.
If you want to have peace, fulfillment, and abundance in anything in your life… especially with your horse and in your faith. You must walk in love.
In order for humans to walk in love we need impeccable loving teachers and guidance! That’s where horses come in… and of course who better to learn and experience from then God, who is love.
I encourage you to take time today and ask yourself where are you not walking in love?
Don’t use this as a list to feel guilty about… go to the experts for help 😊 Ask God to help you walk in love more in your day to day life. And the next session you have with your horse have the question on your mind – am I walking in love?
If you’re anything like me… don’t overlook what they reveal to you about how you walk in love with yourself. This has been the biggest realization for me. The biggest gaps in my horsemanship are often bridged with finding love, patience, and acceptance for myself.
God loves you and you are created in His image. You are enough and perfectly in process. A unique and original masterpiece.
My intention is this expression of my heart and journey serves you well and sparks hope, light, and spreads more LOVE into the world.